| S | Yeah. I don't know what his deal is. |
| Me | R u still planning on coming to KS over labor day even if he can't come? |
| S | Yeah maybe it'll make him happy. He told me to go. |
| Me | Absence makes the heart grow fonder... |
| S | Yeah sure. He said he has to work all the time anyways so I wouldn't ever see him. |
Yes, I know they've broken up before. But it seems like they get back together for shorter and shorter times. Fine by me. I wasn't anxious about trying to reel him in. (S says his problems have gotten worse over the summer.) Frankly, I think I'm going to have my hands full with S.
Talking to my mom on the phone today and she admitted for the first time that E has really made progress this summer. She also expressed concern about him back-sliding when/if S moves in. I share those concerns too, I just don't know what to do about them.
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ya, that's tough. I deal with something similiar each day! Hopefully, with all the progress E has made and known that she will get there sometime, he's ready. He's shown he can use his skills on others, even ones that have made him mad. I'd have a heart to heart with him, let him you know everyone has seen the changes in him and what he thinks it will be like when S gets there. I have a feeling it will be a 2 against 1 head butting match for a while. And, she isn't there yet... one day at a time. I know E going to your mom's was out of the question... what about S? I'm already laughing but thought I'd put it out there
From time to time E mentions her coming, and I remind him, as well as myself, that she's not here yet. I'm trying to relish in the subtle changes he's made. Like, he's started saying, "thank you" on a pretty regular basis. I haven't said a word to him about that, but that's something that I try to do myself, no matter how menial the task. So, that's nice to see that emulated. The optimist in me hopes that S will start to emulate the good stuff too. A couple years ago, over Christmas break, a fluke of circumstances had both E & S staying with me for a week. I had to work 2 days of that week, so I was always scared to come home. But it actually turned out fine. They got along great. We laughed a lot and had a really good time. So I have a sliver of hope about this, too. Granted, there's been a lot of water under the bridge since then...
S living with my mom... LOL! Yeah, that might last all of an hour. First, my mother has no patience for anything anymore. Plus, her bf, B, doesn't care for S and he doesn't like DS either for "putting S in that situation." I, OTOH, don't care for B. But that's a whole 'nother post. So, no, that's prolly not a good plan.
My friend @ work, JL, has been talking a lot lately about her "zen" attitude. So I'm trying to take that approach here: it is what it is. I will do my best and the kids will either clue in or not. They're [practically] adults now so I can't control their actions. I can only teach them the best that I know and hope that it sinks in.
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